One of the most enigmatic questions man has ever asked is “what is the secret to being happy?”
Of course, it is in no way an easily answerable question.
Then how does the Dalai Lama, one of the most iconic religious figures in the world today, always appear happy, contented and smiling.
Does he hold secrets to this happiness that we don’t possess?
The answer might be yes.
For years, the goal of Buddhist doctrine has been to alleviate the suffering of mankind and keeping the mind focussed on its present moment of existence.
Now, we are going to run you through on some of his Holiness’ most simple and adoptable habits to enrich your daily life.
While most of these may appear difficult, bear with us and yourself and you’ll see an ocean of change.
“The topic of compassion is not at all religious business; it is important to know it is human business, it is a question of human survival.” – Dalai Lama
Compassion not only benefits the receiver of said compassion: Research shows the existence of a “giver’s high”, the benefits of which are a more regular heart beat and an improved immunity.
This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.” – The Dalai Lama
Every human being would agree that they would like to live in a society that would be kinder to them. Well the start to that is being kind yourself. It is also now academically proven that people who spend their wealth on others are more contented than ones who spend it on themselves. There is always some scope for kindness, in every aspect of life.
- Finding Happiness
“The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” – The Dalai Lama
Western capitalism has always taught us to be materialistic: that is it has taught us to horde and crave more material possessions to be happy. His Holiness however says the keys to happiness lie not in material possessions but in compassion, empathy, moderation and patience.
Discovering Inner Peace
“Spend some time alone every day.” – The Dalai Lama
Solitude and contemplation are very necessary milestones in your search for happiness. These would help you to know things about yourself you didn’t know earlier. Making you more and more comfortable with the person that you are. Calmness of mind is the door to finding this elusive inner peace and comfort.
- Doing No Harm
“If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them.” – Dalai Lama
Start contemplating on the way you have been treating people. No matter their crime against you, no one deserves to be intentionally harmed, in no way. If this sounds vague, in simpler terms, it would be: Every person deserves and should be happier after meeting you than they were before. Start acting on this.
- Cherishing Your Friendships
“We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection.” – The Dalai Lama
Close human relationships are probably the most important things a human being can possess in this life. It’s high time you give them the time that they deserve. Important to add this here, but real relationships, be it romance or friendships, never depends on the material aspects: what builds them well are trust, transparency, love and patience.
- If Possible, Choose Negotiation Instead Of Conflict
“Non-violence means dialogue, using our language, the human language. Dialogue means compromise; respecting each other’s rights; in the spirit of reconciliation there is a real solution to conflict and disagreement. There is no hundred percent winner, no hundred percent loser—not that way but half-and-half. That is the practical way, the only way.” – The Dalai Lama
Be it quarrels with ones near you or conflicts on the international scale, conflict can only tear things asunder and rarely solves any issue. Dialogue, compromise and negotiation on the other hand work wonders in all situations.